Hello again, first off sorry it’s been awhile since I last posted. Summer is literally the hockey off season. Confidence is a very delicate thing to nurture and build, it has a lot to do with factor and elements that are completely out of my (parents) control.
A quote from my buddy in the Canada working at Star Plumbing and Heating, “it’s not necessarily the time you put into practice, it’s what you put into practice”.
On one you want to challenge and push your kids to get better, work harder and accomplish things outside of their comfort levels. On the other hand you don’t want to push too hard, have them quit or lose all their confidence along the way. There is a happy medium most people follow however I have chosen a somewhat different path for my boys (in hockey) and my daughter (in gymnastics). I have decided that instead of clearing a path for them, I was going to have them develop skills that will make them bulletproof of all these things. It all started when I found myself running battle hockey drills with my oldest, the goal of the battle drills was to have the hockey players play against their teammates in small area games to enhance their ability to deal with similar situations in games. What I found out was that this was not only extremely successful from a skill development perspective but also from a confidence building perspective. As the boys battled each other it was not a practice anymore, it was a game that they could win….against their buddies for bragging rights. Because of that the drills intensity went up because it wasn’t just about the drill, it was about beating your buddy. As the two hockey players battled, I was able to correct small things about each players battling skills, edges, turns, moves, etc. As I did that the entire group was engaged cheering the boys on while fully engaged into the techniques I constantly talked about as they were battling. If it was one sided, the next puck that was thrown in was given to the player that had less ability to give him/her the advantage. What I’m getting at with this one small drill and how it relates to my original statement of making my kids bulletproof is putting them into situations where I can put walls up for them to climb. The more they learn to push themselves over those walls the stronger and strong and more and more confidence they obtain. As this is happening, the message from mom and dad needs to be clear. With hard work and perseverance there is really nothing you cannot do. Don’t be a realist or pessimist, let them dream big…..NHLers did and they were kids once too. What is the benefit from tearing those dreams away? Nothing, so don’t do it.
If you can help them build skill and the confidence to do it, there is nothing they can’t take on…..as a kid and eventually as an adult!